Emotional abuse

Emotional abuse, according to pcychologists, is is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as repeated disapproval or even the refusal to ever be pleased. Manipulators of emotional abuse can make their victims feel guilty, to make their self- esteem irrelevant. Who usually suffer from emotional abuse? Of course people, who are very sensitive and easilly damaged – women or children.
In women case, they usually marry men, who demonstrate a lot of attention for them. After the wedding more and more they are getting hit by their husbands. After the physical abuse comes the emotional abuse – a husband shows his guilt and tries to please all woman‘s needs. After pleasing time, the hitting comes again.. the hunsband manipulates the situation psychologically in such way, that his beatings he ascribes to a woman – for her to feel guilty. Of course, mostly physical abuse comes with verbal abuse.
The most important thing is that if you ask a woman, why she doesn‘t leave her husband, if she suffers from beatings of her husband, she would probably say, that she hopes that was the last beat. But unfortunatelly it never is. Soon the husband becomes uncontrollable and he only wants that his woman only stay at home and satisfy all his wishes.

Children abuse contains about 8% of all children abuse. Manipulators of children can make a lot of damage for them, because brains are not set enough and it is possible to damage emotionally irreversibly. Usually during emotional abuse period, the victim comes to see him or herself as unworthy of love and affection.

Psychologists separated five types of emotional abuse for children:
Denying - parents reject their bond with children, show that children are unwanted.
Ignoring – parents do not have a bond with children – psychically they are there for them, but not emotionally.
Terrorizing – parents try to punish and criticize their children, even threaten with death.
Isolating – try to isolate children from their sight to make them „learn“ a lesson.
Corrupting – parents allow children to do anything, what should be restricted to them: use alcohol, drugs, watch pornographic tapes and so on.

Emotional abuse is a very big problem in nowadays society. We should do everything to prevent it. It is recommened for people, who suffer from emotional abuse to go to help centers or at least try to talk to psychologists or friends.

A listening task

I have listened to two bbc listening tasks. One was about English people’s health and another was about drug addicts in United Kingdom.
I listened both for the first time and I understood everything, although I listened them both one more time, just in case I skipped an important information. Honestly, I haven’t finished listening the second task, because it was very long and it seemed that I really understood everything.
Both tasks were quiet long, but I really enjoyed listening about the first topic, because im very interested about health and nutrition. Speakers were talking about obesity among English people. Why is that happening? What are the main reasons? When did it start? Even 50% of all English people are overweight. A very interesting fact was mentioned, that in UK in 4 mile distance there are about 29 fast – food cafes. Fast food is cheaper, easier and faster to eat, and you can find it almost everywhere. People do not embark on doing exercises, the biggest their activity is to get in or get out of the car. Even those people, who go to the gym three times per week reward themselves for doing that with a big pizza or hamburger and few beers. If people will not pay attention to what and when they eat, the children will start to die earlier than their parents in 15 years. For me, a very interesting fact was that the government tries to help to suppress the obesity by banning the advertisements of fast – food or even putting extra classes in curriculum for children to learn how to cook healthy food.
The second listening task was about the bond between government and drug addicts. There are very many drug addicts in UK and the government tries to reduce the number of them by not punishing the addicts, but rewarding them. Firstly, they were rewarded by travels, but later on medical stuff started to reward addicts with another drugs, like antidepressants. The chief of this health section was not aware of this and there was a quarrel about that with a woman from this section and a speaker from the radio show. In addition, Britain is a leader in EU by helping and improving treatments for drug addicts, although the percentage of fully treated addicts in whole UK is not very big.
The conclusion is that if a listening task is interesting, so it is does not matter – is it long or short – the most important thing is that you listen it with a great interest and want to hear more. Although both tasks were more than 15 min, but I honestly wanted to hear more.

Psychology of handwriting

Every person has its own handwriting. Although everyone of us can change their handwriting few times per writing, but the principles remain the same. People used to write by hand much more often many years ago and now they prefer writing by the new technologies. They barrely use handwriting, although we still can say many facts about the writer itself.

The handwriting depends on few features: slant, size, pressure, upper or lower case, word spacing, page margins and so on. But why is that important for handwriting? Why is it possible to bond person’s character and handwriting? Firstly, because our brains guide our hands – they are related. Furthermore, brains controls not only our motoric system, but emotional state as well, so if we contain everything we have the result – handwriting. That is why person’s handwriting is different, when he/she is happy or sad.

So firstly, if you want to analyse the handwriting, you have to picture the whole writing. Try to touch the writing. If you even can feel the letter, written on the paper, it means, that the writer was writing with a big pressure. These people usually are confident and have lots of emotional energy. Plus, they are very successful in life. People, with light pressure are not so confident and tries to avoid stressful situations. They can show empathy to other people.

Secondly, check the slant – it shows the response to external forces. If it is right slant, it means that a person is very communicative, they respond strongly to situations and a person mind is ruled by heart. If a slant is vertical, then a heart is rules by mind. Such person is independent and tries not to show his/her emotions to other people. Left slant people do not show any emotions at all and they can not stand being controlled by others.

Thirdly, the size of handwriting is also very important. If it is very large, then it shows extraversion, the person is outgoing, but usually only puts on act that he/she is very confident, although the truth is different. Very small size means contraversal person, although he/she likes to be dependent on somebody or maybe something.

People who write in upper case, mostly are ambitious, but those who write in down case are impatient.

The science about handwriting is called graphology. It is very interesting, but difficult as well. There are so many things you can tell about a person only from his/her writing! Although, usually people use more computer writing, not hand and it is more and more difficult to reveal the secrets and features about a person from the writing.